Having been around the Law of Attraction for a long time now I have over the years watched the film The Secret many times! I love its optimism and positive take on how the law of attraction works and most of the teachers on there are my hero’s.
However, whilst the process offered in the movie is sound and the message from all of the teachers pretty consistent, we don’t always get what we ask for every time and there may be a couple of good reasons for this depending on your views of this material.
One reason, that is suggested by spiritual texts such as A Course in Miracles and Ho’oponopono for example, is that we don’t really know what is best for ourselves anyway and therefore if the Divine understands something is not in our best interest and could actually cause us more problems in our development, (we are not ready for it) then as the Divine is Love, it would not send us something that would hurt us. After all, as Norretranders tells us (in his book The User Illusion) the conscious mind only has a very narrow view of the world and can handle only a small amount of data at any one time, making its judgments pretty inconsistent and unreliable (how often are we wrong!)
The other main reason comes down to internal resistance, our beliefs, values and attitudes or basically the rubbish stuff buried in our subconscious a lot of which was put there when we were young with much added since, depending on our life experiences.
The problem with this ‘stuff’ is that it is ‘fixed’ in there, and when we introduce a new idea and one that challenges our current view or paradigm of what is normal, or what Bob Proctor calls a ‘Y’ idea and we repeatedly offer it to the subconscious the unconscious buried resistance can and will scupper our efforts. Why? Because our new ‘Y’ idea is not in accord with what we have believed to this point, and maybe for all our life so far.
For example, I decide I want a significant sum of money and have been relatively poor up to now. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this being a desire, and totally is understandable. However, as many lottery winners will tell you, suddenly coming into a large sum of money is great, but without changing how you feel, think and act around money, means you are not sticky to money, and much like many of these lottery winners you won’t keep hold of it and end up back where you started.
Why is this? Well, because you have resistance through your beliefs, values, attitudes, feelings and actions and whatever stuff is buried in your views of the world about money, in your subconscious. Such ‘memories’ or data in the subconscious certainly have the power to get in the way of making this jump and will resist you being able to change because what you are asking for is not in alignment with who you believe you are and perhaps the value system you live to.
I am not saying this kind of miracle doesn’t happen, I know sometimes these miraculous shifts do happen; however, the problem with movies like The Secret they don’t really address that at times the Universe knows best and that delays are not necessarily denials. This plus that because our conscious minds are so narrow in their view we give up because we don’t get the results as quickly as we would like.
As Bob Proctor says, you have got to Let Go and Let God, which means doing the process repeatedly, trusting the Universe has your back, and sticking with it knowing it will come when YOU are ready and once again, we might think we are ready, BUT with the amount of data or memories, of which we are unaware in our subconscious mind being, we are actually not ready.
Therefore, to work on this here are some examples of actions you can take:
OK let's talk about the Law of Attraction...I know some people find it a bit 'out there' or woo woo but a not too hard look at your life will make it pretty evident that as Earl Nightingale says 'we become what we think about'.
Whilst some authors and teachers like Stephen Covey, Tony Robbins and indeed the wonderful Mr Nightingale, all of which are among my favourites, have not used the law by name, they are all (as are many others) in my view, using the underlying principles and process as a basis of promoting the benefits of self and personal development.
This process, which at its simplest means being proactive in deciding what you want, asking for it in the positive, seeing it and feeling like you have it already, being persistent and consistent in this, and taking consistent action to move you forward is tried and tested.
Of course there are others such as Bob Proctor, Bob Doyle, Rhonda Byrne, James Ray and Joe Vitale who are much more comfortable with talking about the law overtly but as you will notice in their books there is still a process which in most cases is not too different to the one I have just outlined.
What is important to understand is that everything is energy and therefore the law operates anyway, it is always 'on' - so if you think it either does not work or that it is inconsistent, then you are right - it is important to realise that your mixed results are because you are spending a lot of time with mixed thinking and feelings.
If we think about something enough (good or bad) that it creates a feeling, this then creates a vibration or frequency that resonates into the world that then provides the attraction or pull towards of what ever it is, to you.
You only have to think of the times you really wanted something a lot, then think about the process I have outlined above to realise that you got it because,
1) You really wanted it (in the positive)
2) You thought about it a lot and consistently (saw it)
3) You pretended you already had it (felt it)
4) You took repeated action to get it
All of this put you in the right frequency/energy/vibration that was then in resonance with your desire which then created the circumstances and conditions for it to start to move towards you.
Knowing this, let's use this wonderful ability we are blessed with for good and let go of the idea this stuff doesn't work.
It does and we all know it.
Earl Nightingale’s Strategies for Success
Here I offer author, broadcaster and public speaker Earl Nightingale’s take on this topic.
Earl Nightingale, was co-founder of the Nightingale-Conant publishing empire in the 60’s and one of the pioneers of personal development and what is generally known as ‘self-help’. As well as his books he created personal development audio programmes that were issued on vinyl records! The following ‘strategies for success’ as I have termed them are all about creating momentum and taking action that not only moves you towards your goals but also strangely brings your desires towards you!
This Earl called the Strangest Secret, which was the title of one of his most successful audio programme recordings which can now be purchased as a short book of the same name printed by Merchant Books (2013).
As a snapshot of Earl’s Strangest Secret and Lead the Field audio programmes his strategies for success in life could be summarised as follows:
Earl stated that attitude is your mixture of moods, feelings and actions at any one time. Therefore, we could say that your attitude is made up of your thoughts, feelings and actions. What’s more Earl was keen to point out that we have control of our attitude and therefore control over our thoughts, feelings and actions. If we want to change our attitude, we then need to change our thoughts, feelings and our actions.
He also went on to say that our attitude towards a task or indeed towards our lives will determine the level of success we will achieve and that we need to manage and control our attitudes so that we think, act and behave in a way that demonstrates our best possible attitude to the world and those in it we come into contact with.
A good life comes from a good attitude – and that is it! The opposite is obvious!
Most people know this of course but few do it. To change your attitude is to consciously take control of your thoughts, feelings and actions each day so that you can proactively decide the attitude you wish to have. Work on this each day and develop a better and optimistic attitude.
Another strategy Earl offers is to treat every person as if they are the most important person in the world, not least because that’s how we all want to be treated but also that in treating others this way we show ourselves that we can treat ourselves this way and further develop a better attitude towards ourselves. As Earl says, ‘someone with a bad attitude to others is likely to have a bad attitude towards themselves’.
Explore your current work for opportunities
Much of Earl’s work is about developing our capacity to think. This is not thinking in the sense of rerunning old thoughts or remembering the past. Here we are talking about the hard thinking of how to make our lives better.
In a section of his lead the field programme in what Earl calls ‘Greener Pastures’ he implores us to look at the work we currently do for the unseen opportunities for growth and success. He tells us that people waste time and energy getting distracted by other pastures when our own likely holds the treasures that we seek.
He talks of our working to become an expert in our field as experts are needed and become so valuable and this ‘future proofs’ our worth and work. He recommends we spend an hour a day developing our expertise and further coming up with ways that the current work we do might contain the unseen opportunities that others cannot see.
This is about developing what Earl calls Intelligent Objectivity – the ability to see your work, industry or organisation as an outsider might and therefore develop the ability to see the opportunities others cannot.
He therefore suggests we:
Set clear goals
Earl tells us that the difference between those who succeed and those who do not comes down to a simple matter of goal setting. Those that succeed set clear specific goals – it is that simple.
Further he tells us that although we might have a number of goals, that we focus on the most important first and deal with one goal at a time – largely again down to how we think and process information mentally. It is easier to keep one goal clear and focused in our mind.
He also provides us with an amazing definition of success as follows:
‘Success is the progressive realisation of a worthy goal’
Earl talks about how most people are like rudderless ships that are just floating around aimlessly. However, if the ship’s captain knows exactly where he or she is going, even though he or she cannot see the final destination, they know they will get there if they keep doing the rights actions over and over.
This is fantastic as we can see that if we are to be successful, we must first set clear goals and start to work towards them! Simple indeed but again how many people really actually do this?
Another key part of this strategy is to think about your goal all of the time and expect to achieve it. To do this Earl suggests writing your goal out and reading out loud morning and night and as often through the day as you can. In fact, he suggests you get a piece of card (like an index card) and write your goal on it. Carry this card with you everywhere to remind you of your goal each time you take it out and read it.
This ‘thinking about it’ all of the time is clearly important, and Earl sums it up like this:
‘We become what we think about’
To set clear goals you can do the following:
Use your mind
Here we move onto taking action towards achieving our goal, remembering that taking action not only moves us towards our goal but moves the goal towards us!
To use your mind Earl is further imploring us to take the time to think properly and to engage our minds! He tells us that successful people are not those without problems but essentially that successful people are those who engage their minds fully to solve their problems. The problem being getting from where they are to where they want to be – achieve their goal.
Earl provides us with the idea that 92% of the things we tend to worry about are not worth worrying about or won’t happen. Further of the 8% left about half of these are beyond our control leaving about 4% that are in our control and that we can affect. It is these problems that Earl is asking us to solve as these are the important ones that will improve massively the quality of our lives.
To help us do this he provides the following strategies:
Earl’s suggestions are deceptively simple but empowering and engaging. This goes back to my point, what could be more important than your own development?
Imagine what you could do if you gave yourself the time to think?